Imagine you are about to start a new work project
You feel a little tightness, anxiety, perhaps some fear. You ignore it, you carry on.
You start working on your project, thoughts come up, "what if I can’t do this", "I hope they like it", however you continue forward, you keep on.
The day has come and you submit your project, you wonder "did I do it right", however you submit it, because you have a deadline to meet.
You get the result, your boss/manager is happy with your work, you feel good and you pat yourself on the back for a job well done.
Now, imagine again you are about to start a new work project
You make a plan, mark out what you need to do, what resources you require and get started.
You start working on your project, you are in flow and ideas are coming up for you to add to the project and you are getting it done with ease.
The day has come and you submit your project, you are happy with the work you have done, knowing that you did your best.
You get the result, your boss/manager is happy with your work. You feel good, however, you already felt good.
What's the difference between the two imagined scenarios?
Even though you got your work completed in both instances, in the 2nd scenario, you felt at ease, you were in the flow, whereas in the 1st scenario, you had feelings come up (fear, anxiety), and thoughts such as “what if I can’t do this”, “I hope they like it”.
And where do these thoughts and feelings come from?
Limiting beliefs, such as "I’m not capable", "I’m not good enough", "what makes me worthy is having other people think well of me".
Limiting Beliefs, Limit Possibilities and Choices
As you have the limiting belief, your feeling & thoughts will be in line with the limiting belief, which will then impact your actions and behaviours.
So if you have a limiting belief such as “what makes good enough is having people think well of me”, some of the actions/behaviours that may stem from this could be an inability to say no, apologising often, avoiding expressing your own feelings, people pleasing.
What I do and what happens next
During a session, I identify the pattern of behaviour, you would like to change, and proceed to eliminate the limiting beliefs causing that behaviour.
As beliefs are eliminated, you will notice that your feelings and thoughts will start to change, which in turn would would impact your actions and behaviours, as more possibilities & choices open up, that were not visible to you before.
As we continue with this process, you will start to feel lighter, like a weight has been lifted.